Processing Church Hurt & Offence

Building His Church

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July, 2026

What if God has a greater purpose for hurt we experience in church? In this message, Andrew Selley explores how Scripture teaches believers to process hurt and offence in a way that reflects Jesus. Wherever people walk closely together, hurt is inevitable – whether through misunderstanding, insensitivity, or intentional actions – but God can use those moments to shape us. As we choose to forgive, keep no record of wrongs, and cover one another in love, we resist the enemy’s schemes and grow in maturity. Will you allow God to use your disappointment to transform you into the likeness of Jesus?

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Andrew Selley

Andrew is the apostolic leader of Four12 (F12) and the lead elder of multisite, Joshua Generation Church. He has been in full-time ministry since 1996. After serving on the NCMI apostolic team for five years, he founded Four12 in 2011. Andrew is based in California, USA, with his wife, Emma, and their daughter, Enyah. Follow him on Facebook and Instagram.

Sessions

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Our Spiritual Battle

What is spiritual warfare, and how do we stand firm and win our battles?

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The War Over New Territory

Why taking new ground for God’s Kingdom is a battle.

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Walking With the Holy Spirit

Who is the Holy Spirit, and what does it mean to follow Him?

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Return to Your First Love

Has familiarity made your love for Jesus grow cold?

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Growing Up Together

Spiritual maturity begins with taking your place in the body of Christ.

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Priorities Reveal Passion

Does your life display authentic devotion to the King and His Kingdom?

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Read Your Bible Through a Hebrew Lens

How the original context of Scripture helps us understand the truth.

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The Pearl of Great Price

Why every heart is searching for Jesus.

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How Culture Affects Our Bible Reading

Are we interpreting Scripture through God’s intended lens?

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A Hidden Key to Freedom

Can we be transformed to be like Jesus?

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What God Reveals Through Moms

How God’s design for motherhood reflects His nature.

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Getting the Help You Need

How open lives and conversations can help leaders meet our needs.

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How We Are to Be Taught the Bible

Are you gaining knowledge-or actually being shaped into Christ’s likeness?

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You Are Called to Greatness

What is holding you back from your purpose in God’s Kingdom?

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Redeeming Easter

Are we living in both God’s forgiveness and His resurrection?

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Faith Lived Out

What does it mean to live a life of faith?

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From Empty to Full

God is always our provider, even when we face lack.

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Tithe & the Curse

Practical handles to understand what the Bible says.

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The Radical Middle

How we discern God’s truth in Scripture beyond our own biases and beliefs.

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Who Are You Looking At?

In uncertain times, is Jesus still our greatest help and treasure?

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God Will Provide

How Jesus has given Himself to provide our deepest need.

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What Does a Biblical Church Meeting Look Like?

Are our Sunday gatherings shaped by Scripture—or by comfort and routine?

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Come, Take, Drink

Christ invites us to come and drink the water of life from Him.

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Living Faithfully in Babylon

How do we live with uncompromising faith in this world?

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A Life That Influences Generations

How stewarding what Christ placed in us shapes future disciples.

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God Is Not Done With Me Yet

How God works to heal, mature, and sanctify us.

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Finding Treasure

Heaven’s greatest treasure isn’t gold—it’s people.

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Demystifying Prophecy

A New Testament gift for the whole church, to strengthen our faith and reveal God’s presence.

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Don’t Lose the Wonder of God

Mervis van der Merwe

We were created to behold the beauty of Christ.

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Genuine vs False Church

Leave consumer Christianity behind and step into authentic, biblical church.

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Finding & Destroying My Idols

God reveals our idols—not to shame us, but to set us free.

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When God Tests Us

Why should we ‘count it all joy’ when we face trials?

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Is Halloween a Demonic Door or Innocent Fun?

Can Christians enjoy Halloween without consequences?

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Flourishing & Fulfilling Marriages

Jonathan Stanfield

Discover biblical ways to thrive in your marriage.

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Facing Your Giants

Fight your battles in God’s power and His ways.

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Five Loaves & Two Fish

Can our small offerings really advance the Kingdom?

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Citizens of Heaven

How must we, as God’s people, live in a world that is not our home?

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You Have Something to Add

Every believer carries a spiritual gift—step out and use it to build His body.

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Community Starts in Homes

How God uses our homes to build family and advance His Kingdom.

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Historians Confirm the Cross

Ancient historians recorded supernatural events surrounding Jesus’ death.

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Knowing the Father

God the Father reveals Himself to us—do you know what He is like?

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Guard Your Heart

Your heart shapes your life, and only Jesus can truly transform it.

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How to Properly Interpret What We Read or Hear

Are we studying the Bible correctly or building bad theology?

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Church – The Life Priority of the Christian

Are you consumed by passion for God’s house, like Jesus’ was?

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Thief in the Night

Keep awake and be sober—Christ is returning soon.

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Does the Law of God Apply to Me?

How Jesus fulfilled the law and wrote it on our hearts.

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Are You Saved?

Genuine faith in Jesus transforms lives to reflect His desires and priorities.

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Are You Ready for Judgement Day?

Make sure your name is written in God’s book of life.

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The Most Important Thing

How to love God with all we are and with all we have.

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The Fight for Godliness

Michael d'Offay

Are you training yourself to become more like Jesus?

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How Encouragement Helps Us Endure

Michael d'Offay

By the Holy Spirit, we strengthen each other to finish our race.

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Why I Believe in the Resurrection

Michael d'Offay

How can we know that Jesus rose from the dead?

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Deacons, Set Apart to Serve

The Biblical qualifications to step into the role of a deacon.

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When God Moves to Save

Understanding the outpouring of God’s Spirit and presence.

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The Need to Change to Remain With Jesus

We need to change for Jesus to remain in us.

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Living in the Power of His Spirit

Yield to the Holy Spirit and let Him overflow through us.

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A Pure & Sincere Devotion

Is your devotion to Jesus honest and undefiled by the world?

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Have You Made a Covenant With God?

True Christianity is found in covenant, through Jesus.

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Positioned for Your Destiny

Trust in God’s ways and timing to fulfil the Lord’s plans for your life.

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Don’t Give the Enemy a Foothold

Don’t be satan’s ‘in’ to your church – yield to the Lord.

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Joined to His Body

Discover the wonder and gravity of being joined to a local church.

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From Death to Life

God desires every believer to step out of our graves and into a glorious life with Him.

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God, Our Hope

Real hope is found in the person of Jesus.

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Your Journey With Jesus

Finding our way in life is not a formula, it is a Person.

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Knowing Jesus

Michael d'Offay

Discover who Jesus is, to walk in a real relationship with Him.

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Money & the Kingdom

We can’t serve Jesus and serve money – God calls us to seek His Kingdom first.

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Worship in Spirit & Truth

What does it mean to worship God in spirit and truth?

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A Revelation of Jesus

Michael d'Offay

Seeing Jesus for who He truly is.

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Restoring the Sinner

God’s heart for church discipline is always to restore and redeem His children.

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True Fellowship

Live in the light and grow together – this is God’s plan for fellowship.

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Apostles & Elders

The apostolic works closely with elders to advance the Kingdom and steward His Church.

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The Apostolic

We need master builders to build according to the Lord’s blueprint.

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A Profound Connection

It was God’s plan to join us to His body.

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Build on His Word

We must not go beyond Scripture when building His Church.

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Love His Church

God desires every believer to be fully committed and devoted to His Body.

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God Is a Good Judge

Understanding the severity of sin and its judgement, to embrace the goodness of the Gospel.

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Remaining in Him

How to connect with Jesus and stay connected.

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Church is Family

God’s desire for a close-knit household of faith.

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Love Like Jesus

We are called to love beyond our comfort and preferences.

A response to the Olympics that imitates Jesus

Our Olympic Response

A response to the Olympics that imitates Jesus.

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We Shared Our Lives

How we love one another is Christ's measure of success.

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Our Story

Andrew and Emma Selley

Their story of overcoming brokenness by the power of God’s love and grace.